Showing posts with label accepting the things we can not change. Show all posts
Showing posts with label accepting the things we can not change. Show all posts

Monday, 10 September 2012

Dealing with Anger - Trapped in a hell state.


It's so hard to let go of anger sometimes.
It is so easy to sit with it, to stew in it.
To bubble and fight.

But sitting and letting go couldn't be simpler.

At this very moment I am trapped in a hell state. Every minute of my day, I am consumed by it. My connection to my true self smothered by the illusion of these emotions.

To be Buddhist does not mean, we shy away from anger and emotion, it means that we are brave enough to see our selves as we truly are. Good points and band points and realise there is something that needs to change.

Most of the time it is us that needs to change.

But  change is hard and it is painful, but I know that I am going to get through this.

If you are suffering in a hell state, or you are angry, realise that being in this state is more damaging to you, then it is to the other person.

Together we can breath in and out and let it go...

Namaste. Bobby XXX

Sunday, 26 February 2012

Human Revolution and Overcoming Obstacles


Transformation is no easy feat.

Introducing Human Revolution
In today's world where global issues are so important, many people feel a sense of powerlessness and resignation; a feeling that no individual's efforts can change the way things are. But the Buddhist viewpoint is that the world should be seen from the perspective of the individual, and that the human life contains the entire universe. That is why changing our own lives one by one will bring a change in our family, our community and the society in which we live. It will change the age we live in, our history, and indeed all aspects of our world.

If we look for the true causes of war we see that it is essentially caused by the human mind. War stems from the desire to control and conquer others, to have power, and from hatred and antipathy. Such is a human being in the grip of the negative force of life. World peace starts with the inner transformation of the individual, and the struggle to elevate our state of life and free ourselves from the domination of the negative force of life. A single sunflower contains the seeds for more than a thousand new plants.

Similarly, when one brave person stands up for peace, his or her resolve spreads out into the environment in thousands of ways. Courage always brings a response. One person's human revolution can therefore eventually change the destiny of the entire human race.



The Spirit of Human Revolution
In his writing On Attaining Buddhahood, Nichiren Daishonin conveys the basic spirit of human revolution: "You must never think that any of the eighty thousand sacred teachings of Shakyamuni's lifetime or any of the Buddhas and bodhisattvas of the ten directions and three existences are outside yourself. Your practice of the Buddhist teachings will not relieve you of the sufferings of birth and death in the least unless you perceive the true nature of your own life." [WND p3]

We could summarise the spirit of this teaching as being, "It's not up to others; nor can I blame anyone else. I have to change myself first." It is a viewpoint that says, everything in life is part of our own training; it is for our benefit and development. Human revolution takes place right now, in the situation we find ourselves at this moment.

World peace starts with this inner transformation of the individual. And yes it is a struggle to develop and elevate our state of life but human revolution is the foundation for world peace and also for individual peace and happiness. It is at the heart of our Buddhist practice. It is about changing our heart and drawing out our humanity.

It is the most amazing feeling as you discover that if the cause of your suffering is within the realms of your own life then you and only you can change that aspect of your life. This is the most freeing feeling. This is human revolution and the door to your Buddhahood.

Human revolution brings into play all the principles and processes that make up the Buddhist teachings of life. Learning to be able to live our lives on the basis of correct teachings is part of our human revolution. The process is a transformation of the heart.


Transforming the Self, Living the Teachings
When we commit our lives to chanting we embark on a journey of self-discovery and challenge. By taking responsibility for our feelings and emotions, especially those we most dislike, we come to realise we have the ability to transform our lives from within. As we broaden our experiences of chanting daimoku we get experiences of our environment reflecting the transformation of our inner lives. This could be in our family relationships, at work or in other aspects of life.

It is usually within one of these arenas that we find life can be difficult or cause us to suffer. As we continue chanting, the more we start to see our lives very differently. At first this process may seem a little uncomfortable because it is quite unique and new to us. We may or may not like what we see. Perhaps we realise we have set attitudes or opinions about others or various issues that make us suffer. It may seem that others have a problem with us. This can draw out all sorts of feelings and emotions that can make us uneasy, or uncomfortable.

Getting this kind of reaction does not mean that chanting is not working or that it is working in a negative way. On the contrary you are actually in the process of transforming exactly that which has always led you to suffer in that particular area of your life. Your chanting is illuminating an area of your life that needs to change for your own happiness. The realisation that this opinion or attitude stems from our own lives and not from other's opinions of us, leads us to uncover the Buddha nature inherent in our lives. The quickest way to transform these feelings or attitude is to keep chanting until you realise the cause of these uncomfortable feelings.

However, it may be that is exactly when you find it the most difficult time to chant. You are on the brink of changing a part of your life that always stops you from progressing or being happy. It will probably feel like walking up a hill backwards. At such times obstacles and devils arise. You will probably be able to justify why it is more beneficial to watch TV than do gongyo or chant or tell a friend about Nam-myoho-renge-kyo or study some of Nichiren Daishonin`s writings. But this is exactly the time to do these things in order to break through and win over something that has always held you back. This is the time to muster a fighting spirit and to be courageous.

In his book Seven Paths to Peace, Daisaku Ikeda talks about human revolution in terms of self-mastery. Simply put, this means winning control over oneself, overcoming the small self that is dominated by narrow self-interest and awakening to the larger self that works for the good of all humanity. From this standpoint a major obstacle to developing ourselves is to pursue a way of life bound by our small ego or self. Expanding from the lesser self to the greater self is the path of human revolution.

Through our practice of introducing others to Nichiren Daishonin's Buddhism, and through efforts to share Buddhism with others, we ourselves grow immensely, we can carry out our human revolution, and transform our karma. Therefore by guiding another individual towards happiness, we also guide ourselves towards happiness. The act of introducing others to Buddhism, which enables us to profoundly benefit both ourselves and others, is the formula of hope for humanity.

At a time when an ordinary person attains Buddhahood, or at a time when a person is at a turning point in doing their human revolution, the negative aspect of life will always appear in some form. This is an unavoidable fact of life! Nichiren Daishonin assures us of this and asks us to transmit it as an axiom or principle of faith so that it is understood by all those who practise.


Obstacles
This negative aspect is often referred to as the 'three obstacles and four devils' (in Japanese, sansho shima). Obstacles refer to things which appear to be outside of ourselves (but which ultimately have their origins in our lives) and the devils, or negative elements, are 'internal'. What makes these obstacles and devils serious is that if we are influenced by them we may stop practising Buddhism. They confront us at a specific point in time - usually when we are about to grow in our lives and move forward. The fact that at a difficult moment we may think that we should stop practising is a sign that it is an attack of one of the three obstacles and four devils. From a positive point of view these hindrances enable us to see a weakness in our lives so that we can chant and become stronger in that area.

The first is the obstacle of earthly desires. Buddhism teaches that our earthly desires may be transformed into enlightenment. Second is the obstacle of karma, which includes the influence of those who are close to us such as a spouse, partner or children. Third is the obstacle of retribution, which means opposition from those with power over us, such as our superiors, parents or people in authority.

The devils come from within our own lives. We create our own negativity, our own doubt, uncertainty and confusion. The first devil arises from our earthly desires. It can include egoism, craving for personal fame and riches, laziness or being dominated by force of habit. It can also arise from the three poisons of greed, anger and stupidity.

Second is the devil of weakness that can arise in our own bodies, such as an illness, which will hold us back and reduce our capacity. Third is the devil, which manifests as the hindrance of death. Unless we are confident that death is not 'the end', but rather another phase in the cycle of life and death - then another person's death can trigger a sense of doubt and can considerably weaken our will to practise Buddhism, even though Buddhism is intended to relieve us from the sufferings of birth and death.

Finally the fourth devil is known as the Devil King of the Sixth Heaven who, in Buddhist mythology, works to obstruct Buddhist practice and drain our life force. This is the manifestation of fundamental darkness inherent in life. And because of this can be seen as the most challenging aspect of negativity to conquer. When influential people persuade or threaten us to stop practising this could be said to be the workings of the Devil of the Sixth Heaven.

Whatever form they take, the Daishonin advises us to take these obstacles and devils as confirmation that we are properly practising the true Law through which ordinary people become Buddhas. They offer us insight into aspects of our human revolution, ways to strengthen our lives and assurance that we are on the verge of achieving this, so long as we are neither influenced nor frightened by them. Human revolution includes experiencing this process and transforming some aspect of ourselves. It indicates the real experience of finding we have to confront something. It also includes our need to gain the inner conviction that we can win over the obstacle in question.

In Buddhism, the term 'fundamental darkness' is used to describe the ignorance and delusion inherent in human life. This is the ignorance of the fact that we all have the state of Buddhahood in our lives, at all times, latent and ready to be revealed. The aim of our great struggle for kosen-rufu, our movement of human revolution, is to transform that innate darkness into light. Our goal is to vanquish the destructive tendencies within human life that give rise to mutual distrust and hate, violence and fear. The three obstacles and four devils become an indispensable means for doing this. That is why we should rejoice when they appear.

Reproduced from SGI UK.

Monday, 21 November 2011

Sister

We are always connected. No matter where you are.


Wondering on a breeze up high.

Life feathers in the wind.

She dances with the power of the mystic law under her feet, a raging burning fire.

Her strength is second to none, her wisdom deeper than the ocean floor.

Alone on the mountain she looks out over the land, seeking the answers to life's big questions.

She is unstoppable.

She is filled with the eternal strength and compassion of the Buddha, innate with in every aspect of her life.

Her name is Nadie Nadine Fontaine.

She is my Buddhist Sister.

NMRK

Tuesday, 26 April 2011

Change the things we can....

Life is full of surprises.
Sometimes being right isn't always the best path.

Sometimes simply by being a good person & leading by example is enough.

Cross-words are not always necessary.

I have learned in my short life that arguments and debate can sometimes be wasted words, as well as wasted time. Our lives on this earth are so short and time is so precious, why would you waste it trying to convince someone else you are right and they are wrong?


There are times in our lives when people will disagree with us and it isn't always possible to win these people over, sometimes it is just better to accept the things we can not change and focus on changing our lives for the better.

In my short time practicing the Buddhism of Nichiren Dishonan, I have met many people who have had various opinions on SGI, and chanting Nam myoho renge kyo.

There have been a few people who have had comments, stories, claims about how one person did this, and another person did that.

Each time I ask my self, have I ever experienced any of this? Have I ever experienced these kinds of things? And each time the answer is no.

I practice Nichiren Buddhism and I am part of the SGI, because it has brought great support to my life, it has connected me with a group of people who seem to really care about the future of our world, and about the future happiness of all humanity.

I feel sometimes that many people in this world, spend so much time trying to convience others that they are wrong, that they miss the whole point to why we are alive.

I believe deeply within my heart that we are put on this planet to love and be loved. To dance, and sing, to cry and hurt. We were put here to share life and loose life. To feel love and to loose love.

We chant nam myoho renge kyo every day becuase we want things to be better.

We want our lives to change and transform, and we want happiness for all humanity.

I want to be VERY CLEAR ABOUT THIS.....

This isnt about BEING PART OF A CLUB or BEING BUDDHIST or BEING A MEMBER OF SGI, this is about being a HUMAN BEING.

This is what it is about. About sharing life, about sharing suffering together and supporting the people around us who need it most.

Through chanting Nam myoho renge kyo daily, it gives us the reminder of who and what we are.

We are creators, we are inventors, we are beings of love. Not hate. Or War.

The suffering, the war and the disease we see in our lives are all the forces we are fighting against.

We have to keep fighting and one day, I believe we will win.

So being part of SGI isnt about being in a club, where you HAVE TO CONVINCE other people to join and that you way is the correct way.

Being part of SGI is about doing your human revolution, becoming more then what you were yesterday.

We are not an exclusive club, we are a family of people who believe that the world can be a better place.

We happen to have been blessed with the writings and teachings of many great men (Shakyamuni Buddha, Nichiren Dishion, Josei Toda, Disaku Ikeda, Tsunesaburo Makiguchi etc)

So you see, it doesnt matter what religion you practice and what you believe, if you are part of the SGI or not.

What matters is what is in your heart and what you want for the world, your country, your community, your family and ultimatly for your own life.

One day we will all stand side by side and look back at our difficult past, and realise that it was all part of the growing pains a young race like Humanity had to go through to learn the important lessons of life.

As far as the universe goes, the existance of Humanity is a blink of the eye.

One thing you can be sure of though is that no matter what happens here on Earth, the Universe will go on spinning, the stars will continue to be born and die.

Just realise that your very very short appearance on this cosmic stage is unique, and it should be treasured like a priceless jewel.

The next time you try to convience someone that your path is the correct way, spare a thought for what I have said and simply be.

Be the person you are and maybe through that, if they are so compelled, they might try walk the same path as you.

And should they choose not to, I would hope you would offer them respect and wave goodbye as you part ways on the golden road back to the center of all that is.

Fond wishes
Bobby

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